The majority of well-adapted individuals have lost their own self at an early age and replaced it completely by a social self offered to them by society. They have no neurotic conflicts because they themselves, and, therefore, the discrepancy between their selves and the outside world has disappeared.”
This post is my message of solidarity with all those who are ”different”, feel ”different”, think ”different”, are judged as ”different”, think of themselves as ”different” or are treated as ”different”. This is coming from a person who most certainly is ”different” himself. I dedicate this message to you: to authentic people who cannot be corrupted and, luckily, are decently treated by society, to authentic people who are not understood by society and, sadly, are discriminated by it and to people who suffer from illness which is against their will, while society in general has no clue what it is all about and, ironically, contributes to their suffering. None of you should be discriminated or bullied or abused or isolated or rejected. It is an enormous shame on society that it treats you this way and does not, at large, have any objections to it. There is no justification for this behaviour. It costs too much, in the pain, to be accepted by us. The price is too heavy to bear with patience, tolerance, politeness and silence. In the community of trustworthy, honest, caring and responsible people, conformity should be a thing of the least importance.
I want to tell people that they shouldn’t be afraid of being different, and that they shouldn’t be scared of other people’s expectations. Create your own views/attitudes. And… yes, that’s enough. I’m not going to preach.”
It is time to be honest. Why does the society not do what it is capable of doing to try to understand, support, and protect those who need it? Why is it that there are exceptions to fair treatment? How come that in the situation when a lot of people have the ability to inform themselves about schizophrenia, autism or social anxiety, with many resources widely and freely available, they remain ill-informed to the detriment of those who unwittingly suffer from such afflictions? If the well-being of one man depends on the ‘doings’ of other men, is it not a duty to care about what is happening to others? What is so scary about ”different” people? Isn’t hipocrisy, insensibility and ignorance, which is quite common in general population, more scary? Are hypocrites, liars or ignorants excluded from their fair share in benefits of societal life? What kind of dubious standards and measures are being practised here?
The autonomous individual, striving to realize himself and prove his worth, has created all that is great in literature, art, music, science and technology.”
Why is this image of normalcy being so heavily guarded and passed on to everyone? A deep insecurity roaming in the soul, perhaps? Isn’t the meaning of the story of Holy Grail about seeking the sacred essence inside a man, a deepest sense of self? Isn’t that what we should be striving for and allowing others to do? What are we doing instead? We are securing the false sense of self and are agressively attaching it to everyone, and those who are most unique in their relationship with themselves and with the world around, are also the ones who are most oppresed and alienated out of all. However, isn’t it that those unique men have also the most unique offerings to share? It looks like we miss the point entirely. The function of ”different” ones may be to remind everyone what the point is and that we are fatally missing it.
The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder.”
Don’t force yourself to change, even if society presses you hard on this. Change yourself only if you feel it is the right thing to do. Society is really clueless in many cases, including fundamental matters, and who wants to experience and deal with the terror of existential insecurity, anyway? There is a higher wisdom in the sayings like ”listen to your heart” or ”trust your instinct”. With regards to this, althought not without a huge dose of pain and periods of doubt, I made my ”homework”. The general society, apparently, did not. Therefore, instead of being easy on this, I wish to say with no excuses:
NO! I WILL NOT CHANGE MYSELF TO FIT AN IDEAL IMAGE OF A NORMAL MAN, AND I ENCOURAGE YOU TO STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF JUST LIKE I AM STRUGGLING TO DO FOR ALL THE TIME. DO NEVER GIVE UP. IT IS YOUR HIGHEST DUTY TO HONOR, ACCEPT AND TRUST YOURSELF.
Nobody can say anything about you. Whatsoever people say is about themselves. But you become very shaky, because you are still clinging to a false center. That false center depends on others, so you are always looking to what people are saying about you. And you are always following other people, you are always trying to satisfy them. You are always trying to be respectable, you are always trying to decorate your ego. This is suicidal. Rather than being disturbed by what others say, you should start looking inside yourself…”
Let’s play a little game ( do not take it too seriously though, it’s for fun! ):
1) ”Do not treat others in ways that you would not like to be treated”.
2) No one wants to be treated as if he were ”crazy”…
3) …but many are treating some of the others as if they were ”crazy”.
4) Logical contradiction appears.
5) Therefore: it is rather crazy to treat others as if they were crazy.
It ‘s weird not to be weird.”
Let’s be serious again now. It is time to stop being ashamed of being ”different”. It is time to accept and embrace it. Invasions against us are built on fragile and shallow foundations, doomed to turn against they, who are weaving spiders. We are a secret army bringing replacements for old and spoiled parts of the system. We are healers of the broken bones of the society. We are brave explorers pushing frontiers of the world further and further. Yet, we live under a subtle but pervasive terror of ”conspiracy of mediocrity” which exploits and feeds off people’s fears…
I am convinced that human continuance depends entirely upon: the intuitive wisdom of each and every individual . . . the individual’s integrity of speaking and acting only on the individual’s own within-self-intuited and reasoned initiative . . . the individual’s never joining action with others as motivated only by crowd-engendered-emotionalism, or a sense of the crowd’s power to overwhelm, or in fear of holding to the course indicated by one’s own intellectual convictions.”
BE A BRAVEHEART!
”I know I’ve been tolerant ’til now
But here comes a warning
There’s a very clear line that I’m drawing
And if you cross it
If you think I’ll let you pull me down to
Your third-class communication
And bulldoze over all my sensitivities
You’ve read me all wrong
Things so far
Have been too perfect
This is the premiere
But, oh, how many dress rehearsals
I’ve been through
Darling, this is far too pure and perfect
I let you corrupt it
I won’t let you ruin this